You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah (2023) is the Netflix coming-of-age comedy from the Adam Sandler family, and its music is a big part of the fun — a poppy, of-the-moment mix of needle-drops plus an original score co-written by Este Haim of the band HAIM.
Released globally on August 25, 2023, the film pairs teen-anthem licensed songs with a 20-track score that captures how huge everything feels at thirteen.
Quick Facts
| Title | You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah |
|---|---|
| Year | 2023 |
| Type | Coming-of-age comedy |
| Platform | Netflix |
| Director | Sammi Cohen |
| Score composers | Este Haim & Amanda Yamate |
| Score tracks | 20 original cues |
| Release date | August 25, 2023 |
| Lead cast | Sunny Sandler, Idina Menzel, Adam Sandler |
The Score & Featured Songs
The original score was composed by Este Haim (of HAIM) with frequent collaborator Amanda Yamate — a dreamy, heightened sound across 20 cues with titles such as “Rite of Passage,” “Bat Mitzvah Dreams” and “Being a Best Friend.”
On top of the score, the film leans on a stacked licensed playlist. Standouts include Olivia Rodrigo’s “traitor” and Icona Pop’s “I Love It,” with additional music from HAIM, Weezer, Gus Dapperton, Pitbull and DJ Casper (“Cha Cha Slide”).
The film is very much an Adam Sandler family affair: it stars his real-life daughters Sunny and Sadie Sandler and is based on Fiona Rosenbloom’s young-adult novel. That warm, homemade quality carries into the music, where Este Haim’s score sits comfortably alongside the Gen-Z pop the characters actually listen to.
Music Highlights
Selected featured songs and score cues from the film.
| Track | Artist / Composer | Type |
|---|---|---|
| traitor | Olivia Rodrigo | Featured song |
| I Love It | Icona Pop | Featured song |
| Rite of Passage | Este Haim & Amanda Yamate | Original score |
| Bat Mitzvah Dreams | Este Haim & Amanda Yamate | Original score |
| Being a Best Friend | Este Haim & Amanda Yamate | Original score |
Where to Stream
You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah streams on Netflix. Este Haim and Amanda Yamate’s original score is on Apple Music, and Netflix has published a playlist of the film’s licensed songs on Spotify.
For more Netflix music guides, see our Netflix soundtrack hub.
Main Cast
- Sunny Sandler as Stacy Friedman
- Idina Menzel as Bree Friedman
- Adam Sandler as Danny Friedman
- Samantha Lorraine as Lydia Rodriguez Katz
Frequently Asked Questions
Who composed the score for You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah?
The original score was written by Este Haim of HAIM with collaborator Amanda Yamate, comprising 20 cues.
What songs are in the movie?
Featured songs include Olivia Rodrigo’s “traitor” and Icona Pop’s “I Love It,” plus music from HAIM, Weezer, Gus Dapperton, Pitbull and DJ Casper.
Where can I watch it?
The film streams exclusively on Netflix, where it premiered on August 25, 2023.
Is there an official soundtrack album?
Yes. The original score by Este Haim and Amanda Yamate is available on Apple Music, while the licensed songs are gathered in a Netflix-curated Spotify playlist.
Who stars in the film?
It stars Sunny Sandler, with Idina Menzel and Adam Sandler as her parents.
Is You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah based on a book?
Yes. It is based on Fiona Rosenbloom’s young-adult novel and stars Adam Sandler’s real-life daughters, Sunny and Sadie Sandler.
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